Interview 22  

Interview 22

Age at Interview: 59
Sex: Male
Background: Gardener, married with two adult daughters. Ethnic background/nationality: White British.

Brief outline:His wife had emergency surgery to remove a kidney. He found it difficult to discuss his feelings but received comfort from sitting alone in the hospital chapel.


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He praised one of the senior doctors who always told him about his wife's progress very directly and honestly.

 



Husband: It was Professor [doctor's name] who discharged you [wife], didn't he? He was brilliant, you couldn't, oh he was a fantastic doctor, wasn't he? 

Wife: He was, yes. 

Husband: He was. There was nothing about that gentleman, he'd tell it to you bluntly, as it was, there was no middle line. He'd give you the bare facts and that was it, you know what I mean. There was nothing trying to cover things up. He told you exactly what it was, and that was it. Nothing, no, you know, you didn't have to say to him, “Oh, give it to me straight”. It was straight, you know what I mean. There was no messing with him, was there? 

Wife: No. 

Husband: Eh? He told you straight. 

Because he told you straight, you understood exactly what he meant? 

Husband: Yes, yes, precisely. You know, there again on Intensive Care the doctors were coming round and they were saying, “Oh, so-and-so-and-so”. It was above my head because I didn't understand what they were saying. But they were very good to me, you know what I mean. They tried to put it in layman terms so I did understand it. But with Professor [doctor's name] he was, you know what I mean, it was straight to the knuckle, wasn't it? And he'd just come in and say, you know, “How are you?” 

Wife: - when he said I could go home, he said, “Are you looking forward to going?” He said, “When you get home, you'll be..... 

Husband: Yes, he did. 

Wife: He said, “You need to go straight home and straight to bed”. I couldn't even get up to bed. I laid on the settee and went to sleep. 

Husband: Yes, that's what I liked about that man. He was straight up. 

Wife: He told it to you straight. 

Husband: There was no messing.

Jonathan Miller - Intensive care
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