They’re all so busy, and I think it’s taking - they do take time with you, but I think they don’t take feelings into consideration, because when I was told I had cancer there was three nurses standing and the specialist here and my son next to me. Now I must have appeared [bangs table] as hard as that table. My son started to cry so immediately it was, you know - they didn’t really know what I was feeling, and I think it was the assumption from visual things that, boy, this woman really has not flinched. They forget the mother instinct. If I had got upset my son would have been so upset - I mean he was upset as it was - but he would have been so much worse. And he today still says, “I think I let you down.” But you could, they could see that he was upset. I appeared to have taken it all in my stride, but nobody knew what was in the head and in the body, and I think they’ve always got to take into consideration that nobody just takes that kind of news - as I say, I can remember thinking, “What an awful word.” You know, there’s nothing musical about it. You know, it’s [slaps hand] cancer. And they, they just took as it as facial. I think you’ve also got to predict that no person’s going to really feel no feelings at all.

 

 

Oh no, no, I felt that was fine. But I think because their initial thing - that’s what I meant with, because you see they always say, “Oh, you know, Rose always looks well and she’s full of life and she’s all.”

 

Because they’re still really taking from the visual. I think sometimes if only they had time they would - they don’t really know you, do they? And you can’t expect them to know you. But I think if they just - I used to always be able to put myself in somebody’s place, so I think that if they could only stand there and think, “She might look like this, but there’s a reason for this”, and always know that the person, no matter what facial things they’re giving away, the person is not really feeling that way and try and dig a little bit into it. You know.