Well that's changed enormously, I mean, well I was very, I was a very spoiled person, [husband] has always allowed me to do my own thing, I've gone to work, I've gone and done, socially I've always gone line-dancing on my own and swimming with my friends, now I can't, that's completely gone, he has to come with me. And I'm trying to get to the bottom of this, and I think it's because, he says it's because he worries about me - example, go to the vets this morning it's only what 10 minutes away, I'm actually away probably 40 minutes and he's worried that something is going to happen to me on the way, and I don't, I don't understand this but he's, I suppose it's his security thing, and I'll give you an example, and it's quite funny really, but I was invited to go and see 'Rocky Horror Show' with my friend and he was horrified when I mentioned this - it's not that long ago, because up to that point he'd come everywhere with me, even line-dancing he sits and watches and whatever. And I said to my friend I don't think he's going to let me go, and she said, “That's ridiculous, he's got to let you go! Tell him he can come and sit over with my husband and you can come, he'll be looked after,” I said, "I don't think it's him being looked after that worries him it's, he doesn't want me to go without him," but he wouldn't come to the Rocky Horror Show anyway. So she said, "Well you're coming, that's it tell him you're coming." So I thought, “Mmm...”, so I told him I was going and he was horrified, he's still horrified but he said, "Oh well if you have to, you have to." My daughter spoke to him and said, "Dad you've got to let Mum go this is silly." So he said, “Alright”...
And I came home, we had a wonderful time, and he was okay but he still doesn't like me going off without him. But at least that was one example where he, I suppose I said, "I'm going that's it," it's partly me because I feel mean, if I say "Well I'm going and you're not coming with me," I couldn't do that, my friend doesn't understand that she says, "You should, you should put your foot down," but I can't do it, it's silly but I feel really nasty if I do! So I tend to give in and say, “Oh come with me then.” |
