When you came home and you told your family You were on your own when you were…?

No, we were married then. Yes, the wife, the children were very young, so they didn't know anything about it, but the wife and parents and relatives were, were quite shocked. But all rallied round, all helped. And the wife was always on to me about what I, you know, the food I used to eat and the wrong food at the wrong times of the day. So we started a new regime. And she's been very good and very supportive of keeping me in control and, you know, not letting me go out in the kitchen and have that Mars bar and Twix and, you know, chocolates. Which I try not to, but we all get tempted from time to time. So if I do eat too much, she's, you know, like a schoolteacher, “Come on, you know, you've got your test, your clinic appointment in a few weeks time.” So she's very good and very supportive.

And you mentioned that your, your wife is very central?

Extremely supportive. And the children, yes, now they're older. When they were younger, it didn't make any difference. But, yes, if, you know, daughter cooks a meal she's quite strict on me. But, yes, the wife and family are very supportive. And I think, you know, if I was one of these people that lived on my own, I don't know if I would, I love curry and things like that. So I could, I think I could live on it every night, but that wouldn't do my diabetes any good I'm sure. But… No, she is very good in, in stopping me doing things I shouldn't be doing. Eating-wise, yes [laugh].

So do you think it's because of her that you've kind of managed to control your diet?

It, it's helped considerably, yes. If I cook a meal, she hurt her back last year, and for me to cook a meal was a nightmare, you know. And if I had to cook a meal for myself it would be, I'd perhaps do some potatoes, but it would be mushy peas out of a tin and a pie or something. Whereas [my wife] will do all the fresh vegetables. Now, you know, I'll eat the vegetables if they're on the plate, but I wouldn't prepare them myself. Yes, so I think she, she helps control me a lot, keeps me in, out of trouble anyway. I'm not saying that because she's not here either.

And you're obviously very active in the diabetes support. Can you talk in some detail about your experience of being part of a support group?

Yes, well, it started off, there again it was the practice nurse that said, “Oh, what you ought to do, there's Diabetes UK, and you can subscribe to the Balance magazine and join Diabetes UK.” Which I did. I got the magazines and found it quite interesting. And in the magazine it said about local support groups. And I thought, “Well, interesting, I'll go along and see what it's all about.” Went for a couple of years and very interesting. They asked me if I'd like to be on the committee. So I thought, “Yes, that can't do any harm.” So ended up on the committee. Then the chairman retired and they said, “Would you like to become vice-chairman?” And I said, “Well, yes, that'll be all right.” And looked at the chairman, who was then, who, the vice-chairman then became chairman. And unfortunately about six months later he died. So I ended up chairman. Which is not what I wanted at all, but I suppose I do enjoy it.

We organise six events a year, three south of Bristol, three north of Bristol, to try and encourage people to come along. It's not like Alcoholics Anonymous, not that I've ever been to Alcoholics Anonymous, where you've got to stand up and say, “I'm a diabetic.” But most people there are diabetics or carers of dia-, people with diabetes or people who work in care homes and doctors and nurses. They all come along because we get quite prominent people to do talks. And then it's question and answer. So it's very low key, very friendly. It's free. And we just encourage people to come along.

But what, if, if you imagine somebody asking you the question, “What, what would somebody get from a support group?”

Sharing experiences, realising that you're not on your own. Either the chance to talk to a consultant, a professor of diabetes, which you wouldn't normally do, but more importantly, to talk with other people on, either on just a one-to-one basis or in a little group. And I'm sure the problems that those, you know, one person has got, everybody's got, you know. So it's just a feeling that you're not on your own. You don't have to go. You can go to some meetings, you can go to other meetings. It's just to, to help with support and awareness, and to meet other people with diabetes that have got all the problems you've got. So you, you think, you know, “I'm not alone here.”

So can you describe your diet in some detail?

It's a normal healthy diet. I have gone… I swing from being ultra careful to perhaps not being as good as I ought to. But I don't, there's no fad foods with me or sugar-free jams and, you know, all the rest of it, just a normal healthy diet. Weetabix or Shreddies or something for breakfast. At the moment because I'm on a diet, I have two apples and a banana for lunch. And then the wife cooks a good wholesome evening meal. I tend to you know, I'm one of these people that I can't have one digestive biscuit, I have to have half a dozen you know. So I try not to, you know sneak out into the kitchen at sort of 9 o'clock at night. But yes, a normal healthy diet. Alcohol - I love red wine - but I only drink that on a weekend. I don't smoke. So, yes, so there's no special diet, just a healthy diet that we should all eat. High carbohydrate, low sugar, low fat.

So I mean if you could just imagine somebody who maybe doesn't know this, then how would you describe this high carbohydrate/ low sugar diet?

Bread, pasta, potatoes, boiled potatoes are okay. Cut out all the fried food, the crisps and the chips, and all the sugary, you know, saturated sugar food. So yes, but there's no need to go out buying sugar-free this and sugar-free chocolate and all the rest of it. Because it's, generally if it's sugar-free it's full of fat anyway. So, yes, and takeaway foods are a once-a-month treat. But yes, cut out the fats and the sugars, that's the main thing. And plenty of pasta, potato, bread, in the right proportions. And obviously five pieces of fruit a day. Which in fact I do quite enjoy fruit. I eat too many bananas. I should only have one banana a day, but I'll sometimes have two or three. Because they're quite high in natural sugar. Which I didn't realise till a while ago, so I was eating a banana thinking I'm doing the right thing, but in fact it wasn't.

Right, basically I was diagnosed when I was 39, back in 1992 roughly. Went to an optician's for a routine eye test. Had no history of diabetes in the family or anything like that. I'd had a motorcycle accident a few years before and damaged my eyes, so they recommended having a follow-up, you know check. And didn't wear glasses, you know, never needed glasses. And the opticians were starting to go, 'Mmm, yes…' you know, and 'We think there's a problem with your eyes...' you know, 'Take this letter to your doctor.' Didn't think anything of it, having had the motorcycle accident. The doctor did some blood tests.

I didn't know anything about diabetes [cough] at all. Said, 'Right, you need to go to, and see a consultant.' And that's when they started talking about diabetes, and sort of frightened the life out of me completely. And what it is, I had retinopathy, which is damage to the back of the eyes. Because I've learnt since that someone with diabetes has had it, type 2 diabetes possibly for up to seven years. So, yes, I'd possibly had it for seven years.

You know, so had the, the diabetic retinopathy, was overweight, so, and I was sort of middle-aged, so it was all the classic things. Was tired, you know had a young family, busy job, so you tend to think, you know, that's all [understandable]. But looking back I had all the classic examples of thirst, going to the loo a lot, tiredness. So after, they didn't need to do anything to my eyes because it was only a mild case.