And what message would you sent to health professionals who advise women about second deliveries? What would you say to the midwives and consultants, what would you tell them?
…Not, not to rush your patients when they are feeling anxious. Because my sister, I took her for a scan last week and some, some seemed quite keen about the pregnancy and seemed excited whereas some professionals didn't seem interested; they just want to get you in, get you out, and I think it's just spending that bit more, and I know you've got so many people that, you know, the waiting lists and you know, appointments, you can just go on and on really, can't you, and you have got to give yourself limits to spend so much time with patients. I don't know. Maybe if they're unsure on something, like I said with the birth weights, if they're unsure, don't give false information, you know, not to sound nasty but to be cruel to be kind, you know, tell people you have got to be open-minded. It's like with the birth, you know, there's me thinking, “Oh, it's an eight pound baby”, and it wasn't. And like I said, if you tell somebody, “Oh, no, you've only got a seven pound baby, you know looking at the scans and the size”, and then they end up giving birth to a ten pound baby that gets stuck because the pelvis is too narrow, it's, it's things like that, isn't it, really, that you're sort of, if things are done a little bit sort of more, like measurements and appointments, taking more time over certain details, that perhaps there wouldn't be difficulty in childbirth, that, you know, perhaps sometimes, if they know it's going to be a big baby and this person could struggle, because obviously they say to them, you know, give them the opportunity to try a natural delivery, but when literally push does come to shove, they can't push a big baby out and then it ends up being a manic situation, where a C-section's got to be done, like now, isn't it. It's, it's just, I don't know, it's a whole circle of scenarios really, isn't it. |
