The specialist in London confirmed the major heart defects and then we were sat in a room with, she was sort of a counsellor midwife, and she handed us the book then and just talked through a few things.
And we came home on the train reading the booklet. I've still got the booklet, I've still got the booklet, last night I got that. And that was, I can't, it was a bible. I mean there were things in there which I didn't even realise. It was silly little things, about, almost about giving birth to be honest. I mean you said about termination, you don't actually... because it had never occurred to me before, I'd never even had to think about it, you suddenly thought, “I'll have to physically give birth”. And that's explained.
And then, you know, will you give birth to a live baby? Or whether you've had a baby before, where will you give birth? They, they put all the questions that you should ask, and I actually, I sat down that evening, I think, I'm not sure if I had a, a question, a checklist of all the questions you should ask, and I wrote them all down on a piece of paper.
And the specialist at our local hospital found this, and she said, “Oh, I've just been reading through this,” and we went through them together. And it was just like one of the questions was where you gave birth and, because it said some places, hospitals you give birth in the labour ward, which to me seemed dreadful, you know, and I put, “No”. And, but she explained that they had nowhere else, and you're in a private room. So that was fine, you know, that was okay then. |
