The whole set up was very friendly and, you know, I felt that we didn't have to wait too long, which was nice. And it was interesting seeing the child. I mean, I suppose because I've seen a lot of scans for others, in that sense it, there wasn't the interest factor. I think it meant more for my wife than it did for me, because obviously she hadn't seen scans. She wanted to take a picture home and so on and so forth.
So, for you it didn't sort of say, “Ooh, suddenly, this is my baby. This is real”?
No, to be honest the first time it really came home to me that we were having a baby - obviously intellectually - but emotionally, I suppose, the first time it really came home to me was when we actually bought some baby clothes and you started to visualise a real baby inside these body suits.
So that was before the birth?
Yeah, just 2 weeks before.I mean, it wasn't that I was unprepared but, emotionally, I think that was the first time it really came home.
That's interesting, because often people say, you know, the scan is the point at which it suddenly becomes real for them.
Right.
That this is actually happening and there is a real baby there.
Yeah, but I mean I've heard it said, and read that, you know, for some people it isn't until they've had the screening that they start to bond with the baby inside them, because they still have this kind of opt-out clause, which I think is very sad. |
