Then the next stage really after that was the 20 week scan. The person who did the scan I think already knew the kind of background and the slight anxiety, and was very good and was very thorough. And there was a moment or so when he kind of paused over the heart.
You kind of, you know, both of us were breathing in. And he was kind of saying, “Normal”, and at the end of it he said to us “You know, it looks fine, and if it wasn't I would immediately tell you.” Which was kind of very reassuring.
One of the things that we've been talking about is the extent to which the ultrasonographer actually tells you at the time what they're looking at and like you say, when they pause over the heart, do they actually say, “I'm unsure whether there's something wrong here,” or did he tell you that he was going to wait until the end to tell you or? How did he communicate during and after?
What he did is, the form that you have when they're doing the scan is kind of a tick box list of the head, the brain, you know - is there a brain there? Are there toes there? And what he did is really went down there and said “Normal, normal, normal, normal” to the person who was kind of taking the notes.
And when it got to the heart he kind of paused, so you kind of noticed it, and then he said, “Normal.” And that kind of made you slightly, it was just the pause that made you slightly nervous, but then at the end of it he said, you know, this statement of saying “It's fine, you know. As far as I can see it's, it's fine.”
Would you rather he'd done anything differently? Would it have helped if he had said anything at that point or - ?
No, I mean I thought he was very good, in the sense that he was - I mean, talking to other people he is apparently one of the leading kind of experts on doing this, and he was just very straightforward. So you felt that he was saying what he thought and he wasn't trying to hide anything from you. |
