Mick and Natalie - Interview 30
Age at Interview:
53 and 48
Mick and Natalie are married and have a son. Mick is a fork lift truck driver and Natalie is a school kitchen assistant. Ethnic background / nationality: White British.
Brief outline:Mick and Natalie’s son sadly died of a brain haemorrhage in 2004, aged 8. He gave the gift of life to three people, who received a kidney, liver and heart valves.
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Mick: They sort of whisked, he had like a fit [seizure], and then they whisked him off. And then they came back and told us he’d have to go to the [hospital name].
Did they say what they thought could be wrong?
Mick: Well we,
Natalie: No not at [the first hospital] they didn’t, did they?
Mick: No, no. They wasn’t sure at [the first hospital]. They said that he’d have to go to [the second hospital] for the, because what it was like, he’d got like a blood clot on the back of his head.
Natalie: It was a brain haemorrhage, wasn’t it? They told us. Obviously they took him to [the second hospital], scanned him and said they did have to operate. And they never, this sort of, he went through the operation but they said he’d never come around again. So….
Natalie: It was already too late. The damage had sort of been done and they said he’s not going to come round. So they just sort of kept him, this was like, they said we could stay overnight didn’t we?
Natalie: And they suggested that we call all the relatives and everything. And then they said, in the morning they said, “You know it’s not going to, he’s not going to get any better. He’s not going to come round.”
Did they approach you when they wanted to talk to you about organ donation? Or was it a subject that you’d already,
Natalie: No, it was the doctor that said, wasn’t it?
Mick: Yeah, they approached us and asked if we’d like to consider it. And we said we’d like time to think about it at first. And then we sort of, they took us to another room so we could have time to think about it while they went away. And they came back about ten minutes to fifteen minutes later, and then they asked us what we’d decided. And that’s when we both agreed and they had to go ahead with it.
Natalie: We thought that’s what he would have wanted. And then we had, I mean he was only eight. We hadn’t talked about it.
Natalie: But we thought, you know, it’s what he would have wanted.
Was it ever a subject that came up with any of the family members? Had it ever, you know had you ever discussed the subject before?
Natalie: No, not before. No.
No. I think some of the other members of the family were a little bit surprised that we chose to do it. But, after a bit, realised it was what we wanted. And then, like I say, they thought like we did as its more about what our son would have wanted to. And that’s when, you know, and they were all happy with it and everything.
Mick: Well I made up my mind to register more or less straightaway after our son passed away. And once I decided, once we decided that’s how it is, we knew that with our son, I decided there and then that when my time comes I’ll do exactly the same. And I’ve registered, and it took you a bit of time to…
Natalie: Yeah. I didn’t do it straight away, but now I am on the register.
Mick: You know, we’re both on the register. Yeah.
And what took you the time? You wanted to think about it or it just wasn’t the right time?
Natalie: It just wasn’t the right time. Obviously, I was still upset and I knew it was what I wanted to do, but I just couldn’t,
Mick: do it at the time.
Natalie: go that last step straight away. You know, it took me time to do it.
Of course. So when you read those leaflets and you made that decision it had quite an impact on you too then, to go and register?
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