I mean, my wife and I, we have thought, because the ill-, because the illness throws up a lot of problems in your relationship as well, which obviously we like, we overcome because we're, we're close and everything. But, but it does throw up a lot of problems. And we have thought of, of going to a counsellor together and sort of, you know, to help us deal with the sort of feeling, because my wife's got very strong feelings about it, I've got strong feelings. Sometimes we can help each other and sometimes we, we, we don't' help each other and we make each other worse. And that, if we went to a counsellor and talked about it with a counsellor maybe things, we would find ways of working with things so that it would be better for us. Just like any couple might go to a counsellor.
Hmm.
We haven't actually done it and I guess part of the reason is because, well in my mind I'm not even sure, would there be any counsellor that would know enough, that would, that would know what it was like or would we just have to spend all our time trying to explain to the counsellor what it was like [laughs]. So, so there's that feeling of like there isn't really anybody who really knows and therefore there isn't, there isn't really anybody who can really help you. So we haven't really used counselling. But we, I, I still wouldn't rule it out. We might do at some point, to help us. But it is a two edged sword, you could come out of a counselling session feeling pretty bad. |
