But the doctor who diagnosed him, I think she picked up that I thought with all the right support Arthur would be normal and develop normally and she said to me when, you know, we went back for our final appointment, she said to me, “You know don’t expect it to get better because as they get older the gap kind of widens,” because it is true you know, while they are kind of little and four or five and all kids are kind of chaotic and running about and into this and into that and you know it is not so noticeable but when you have a 10 or 11 year old who is a boy who is kissing everyone and hugging everyone and all those sort of things, you know that is kind of more obvious that they are not neurotypical [laughs].

 

They are kind of, all the professionals had been very helpful and given me all sorts of tips and that and so you kind of think, that yes okay if I do it all the right way then it is all just going to be fine and it will all just go away, you know and obviously you want to, you want your child to grow up and have a normal life, get a job, get married, and so you do kind of tend to think well it is just the way I am doing things. I know he has got these problems but if I do everything right then it is all going to be fine. Yes, I think that bluntness when I went back and it was like yes, okay, so going to special school is not going to damage his future in any way because it is going to be obvious that he has problems you know, when he is older as well [laughs]. So yes, I think I needed to be told that.