Interview 18  

Interview 18

Sex: Female
Background: Carer is a doctor sharing the distance care of their mother, with her sister (ALZ04). She is married with 2 children.

Brief outline:At 80 her mother was still a vigorous, independent woman. First care home insisted on her being sectioned so she was moved to a locked assessment ward. Appalled by this her daughters found a secure long-term home for her where she spent the last 18 months of her life.


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Their mother got lost on the way back from Australia.

 



Mum had got off the plane, she'd got on a bus, she'd jumped off the bus for some reason as far as we can gather because she didn't go to the place where the bus was taking her. I think the bus was just taking people for, taking people to some rest stop before the flight continued, but she was obviously totally confused, had no idea where she was and had jumped off the bus. And was eventually found, I don't know how she got there, she was found on, in a police station in Athens and she was, she refused to move, literally refused to move.

I don't this the Vice Consul, anybody could get her to move so they had to keep the police station open all night and she, mum was sitting there, they couldn't get her to go to a hotel or anything. Because she, she was obviously frightened, poor mum, I mean she was, and she just felt, she was just going to stay where she was because if she went anywhere else, I think she was just, she was just scared.

And, the Vice Consul, she was of course, she'd come from Australia and this was December and she was in summer clothes and the Vice Consul took her out and bought her a coat, which was very sweet of them. And then got hold of us and my sister flew out the next day, where she was still, I think she was still in the police station, and mum, mum just said 'Oh, I thought [my sister] was coming.' That's me! So my poor sister after you know all this effort, money and trauma of rushing out to Athens…

That was her response, and my sister was so good, and she took her to a hotel and then she brought her home and mum was quite, even when she got back to England mum just wanted to get on a train on her own. And so she actually took herself, I think she took herself back to Bristol because she was still in this terribly independent mood. Anyway she got home.

And we had all sorts of problems after that trying to get her luggage and so on, but, but the whole episode, she remembered it partially but she thought she'd been in a Nazi concentration camp! She'd obviously been scared, she really had been scared. And when it came to collect, eventually we managed to collect her, find out where her possessions were but only three months later and they sent them to Bristol airport.

Jonathan Miller - Dementia
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