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Seeing the body or not being able to do so
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The funeral, inquest, burial or cremation :
The funeral or commemoration
Burying the body or scattering or burying ashes
The headstone or other memorial
The inquest
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Informal support - Family and friends
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Coping with grief and keeping memories alive
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Adjusting to life without the person who died
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Felicity - Interview 2
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Alice was buried in the West Indian manner, where everybody stands around the grave and sings. Felicity, her mother, found it very moving.
Felicity and Alex had a daughter, Alice. She had depression as a teenager, and was eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder. In 2004, at the age of 22, she took her own life. Felicity has found support from family, friends, her GP and Cruse.
Dying & bereavement
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Lost a partner, husband or wife
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Patricia - Interview 4
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Patricia decided to have Andrew buried because she wanted to have a place where she and her children could go to be close to him.
Patricia’s husband, Andrew, had had depression for years. A number of times he had taken an overdose or tried to gas himself and then sought help. In 1994 he died in a car, due to carbon monoxide poisoning. Patricia found support via Cruse & SOBS.
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Margaret - Interview 40
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Margaret’s daughter was buried rather than cremated because it just seemed ‘right’ at the time and because it is what her daughter would have wanted.
Margaret’s daughter was in prison when she took her own life. Margaret was shocked by the news. The inquest found that there had been a lack of care while her daughter was in prison. Margaret found support from her dog, friends, SOBS & a counsellor.
Dying & bereavement
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Bereavement due to suicide
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Lost a parent
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Lynne - Interview 26
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Lynne’s parents had been active in their local church before her mother’s suicide. Lynne was relieved that her mother could be buried in the churchyar
In 1981, when Lynne was 19, her mother drowned in the bath at home. It seems that she took her own life. Lynne felt her mother had been let down by the professionals who had been involved in her care. She has found support from friends & colleagues.
Dying & bereavement
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Helen - Interview 6
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After the funeral and cremation Helen left her daughter’s ashes at the undertaker’s. After four or five weeks she arranged to plant a wild cherry with
Helen’s daughter, Charlotte, had mental health problems. When Charlotte was 30 she was found dead in her flat. She may have taken an overdose or may have taken her own life. Helen has been well supported. She also finds comfort by helping homeless people.
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