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Patricia - Interview 4

Patricia - Interview 4

Age at Interview: 58
Sex: Female
Background: Patricia is retired, having worked in education (special needs and literacy support). She is a widow, and has 3 grown up children. Ethnic background/nationality: White Scottish.

Brief outline:Patricia’s husband, Andrew, had had depression for years. A number of times he had taken an overdose or tried to gas himself and then sought help. In 1994 he died in a car, due to carbon monoxide poisoning. Patricia found support via Cruse & SOBS.

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Patricia decided to have Andrew buried because she wanted to have a place where she and her children could go to be close to him.
Print And then, after the funeral, was there a burial or was there cremation? Burial, burial. Yes. Were you pleased to make that decision for a burial? Yes. I’m not sure that Andrew would be pleased. It’s not a thing we ever discussed. No. His parents were cremated so I have a feeling that might have been what, if we had discussed it, he would have said. But given that he hadn’t said… Hmm. … I wanted there to be a grave because I don’t know whether cremation, there’s nowhere for, for you to go. Hmm. And I wanted him to be there. Yes. Because there were children … Hmm. … I wanted him to be somewhere they knew where he was. I don’t know if that sounds a bit bonkers. No, I understand.

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