So that was the funeral. It was December 10th, and so we were then faced with Christmas. What do you do? And I said, what was, what was important? We all felt all the time that it was important that we consult with each other about what was appropriate. And certainly we consulted with the boys all the time because they had very strong views about what was right for Alice, and what wasn’t. And I didn’t want to get it wrong. I said “What do we do about Christmas?” And Alex said, “Well no decorations, no tree. But as it kind of came closer I, I felt we couldn’t just do nothing, I said “We’re allowed to have food?” Oh yes that was alright. And then I went round to a friend’s house and they were having a party and they were doing nothing but candles, I thought, “That’s it!” So we filled the house with flowers and candles.
We often have strangers to stay at Christmas, as well as the family, that we have this tradition that at a certain point we go round the table and we toast to absent friends, which we did and, and of course we especially talked about Alice then.
