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Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 51-60
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Interview 08
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The diagnosis of breast cancer was a big shock.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, with secondary tumours in the brain, liver and hip. Treated with steroids, radiotherapy and tamoxifen.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 15
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After being told she had a sarcoma she was in a state of shock.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 1992, followed by a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. Sarcoma diagnosed in 2000, followed by double mastectomy.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 15
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She was glad she would not become old and dependent on others but worried about those she would leave behind when she died.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 1992, followed by a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. Sarcoma diagnosed in 2000, followed by double mastectomy.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 51-60
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Interview 08
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John Diamond's book 'Because Cowards get cancer too' helped and inspired her.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, with secondary tumours in the brain, liver and hip. Treated with steroids, radiotherapy and tamoxifen.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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She questions health professionals and patients about their opinions on treatments.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 02
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She feels upset that she was not offered a CT scan earlier and that the emotional side of her illness has been forgotten.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, lumpectomy, followed by radiotherapy and chemotherapy
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 02
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She can't accept that she is dying and feels angry and upset that she will die before her mother.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, lumpectomy, followed by radiotherapy and chemotherapy
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 28
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Her teenage children knew she was ill but not about all the implications.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in left breast in 1998, followed by lumpectomy, then mastectomy and reconstructive surgery. In 2000 secondary tumours found in other breast, liver, bones and lung, treated with chemotherapy, radiotherapy and hormone treatment.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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She worries that she has painted a picture of the situation for her children that is too positive.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 15
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With hindsight she thinks she could have explained the situation better.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 1992, followed by a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. Sarcoma diagnosed in 2000, followed by double mastectomy.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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The breast care nurse helped to explain things to the children.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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She enjoyed her week in hospital where her pain was controlled and where she was given blood for anaemia.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 02
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She would like to be able to return to the local hospice but beds are not always available.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, lumpectomy, followed by radiotherapy and chemotherapy
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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Some of the nurses at the hospice are quite religious but do not push it on those who do not want religion.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 51-60
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Interview 08
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She found the staff very supportive and enjoyed the activities but found it hard watching others deteriorate.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, with secondary tumours in the brain, liver and hip. Treated with steroids, radiotherapy and tamoxifen.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 02
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She would prefer to go to a day centre with others the same age as herself.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, lumpectomy, followed by radiotherapy and chemotherapy
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 71-80
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Interview 23
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Staff and patients have helped her to come to terms with illness and with death.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 2001, followed by a mastectomy, radiotherapy and chemotherapy
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 02
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Says that she might be offered a palliative care bed in the local hospital but not in the hospice.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, lumpectomy, followed by radiotherapy and chemotherapy
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 02
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Explains that the agency used by social services cannot provide all the help agreed in the Care Plan.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, lumpectomy, followed by radiotherapy and chemotherapy
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 51-60
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Interview 08
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The nurse gave the whole family much needed sympathy and emotional support.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, with secondary tumours in the brain, liver and hip. Treated with steroids, radiotherapy and tamoxifen.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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Discusses the needs of carers and suggests that support is not available.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 12
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She followed a non-dairy diet and felt more energetic.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1994, followed by lumpectomy and radiotherapy. In 1997 another tumour diagnosed, followed by a mastectomy. In 2000 had a meningioma, followed by surgery.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 71-80
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Interview 23
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Describes her stabbing pain.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 2001, followed by a mastectomy, radiotherapy and chemotherapy
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 28
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She explains what happens during Reiki and says that it makes her feel good.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in left breast in 1998, followed by lumpectomy, then mastectomy and reconstructive surgery. In 2000 secondary tumours found in other breast, liver, bones and lung, treated with chemotherapy, radiotherapy and hormone treatment.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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Describes chronic ill health and many aches and pains, but still feels quite good.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 81-90
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Interview 07
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She has stopped worrying about whether or not there is a God and accepts the situation.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 1985 followed by lumpectomy and then mastectomy. In 1987 cancer was diagnosed in other breast, followed by lumpectomy. In 2002 metastases were found in liver, lungs and bones.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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The experience of being ill has given her much more self-confidence.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 15
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She lost her faith when she developed sarcoma but now that she has survived two years she wonders whether God exists.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 1992, followed by a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. Sarcoma diagnosed in 2000, followed by double mastectomy.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 15
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Continuity of care and thorough follow up checks give patients peace of mind.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 1992, followed by a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. Sarcoma diagnosed in 2000, followed by double mastectomy.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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She enjoyed her support group for women with advanced breast cancer, finding it better than telephone support groups.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 81-90
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Interview 07
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She advises people to write reminiscences of early years and to sort out papers, but not to worry.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 1985 followed by lumpectomy and then mastectomy. In 1987 cancer was diagnosed in other breast, followed by lumpectomy. In 2002 metastases were found in liver, lungs and bones.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 30-50
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Interview 13
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Explains how a counsellor helped her to talk about things that worry her.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995, followed by lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Secondary tumours (metastases) diagnosed in 2000.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 81-90
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Interview 07
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She decided to stay at home as long as possible.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 1985 followed by lumpectomy and then mastectomy. In 1987 cancer was diagnosed in other breast, followed by lumpectomy. In 2002 metastases were found in liver, lungs and bones.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 71-80
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Interview 23
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She would prefer to die in the hospice, where she had experienced good care, love, and laughter.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 2001, followed by a mastectomy, radiotherapy and chemotherapy
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 15
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She likes the idea of a pill she could take to end her life if she were in pain and clearly dying.
Breast cancer diagnosed in 1992, followed by a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. Sarcoma diagnosed in 2000, followed by double mastectomy.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 12
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Suggests that people eat a good diet, avoid stress and believe that they will get better.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 1994, followed by lumpectomy and radiotherapy. In 1997 another tumour diagnosed, followed by a mastectomy. In 2000 had a meningioma, followed by surgery.
Dying & bereavement
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Living with Dying
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Age 61-70
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Interview 02
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Having seen others die she hopes that when she nears death she will be able to end her life with someone else's help.
Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2001, lumpectomy, followed by radiotherapy and chemotherapy
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