We were talking about [different sorts] of carers on Monday night at the group and the different way that people cope with your illness and we all agreed that actually being the ill person was actually the easiest part of that sort of relationship, because you're ill, you're going thorough it, you know how you feel. And, you're quite selfish in some ways cos you're thinking about yourself whereas your carer has to not only worry about you, but about their own feelings, how they want to look after you, support you, keep bad things from you all that sort of thing.
Its actually much more difficult for them and there's nothing for them, there's no support for them. I think that would be a good subject to use for your thing on the internet. You know, support for carers, because that's a huge problem isn't it? And we talked about it and I said, “Nah, my husband gets upset if I make a noise, if I go, 'Oh' like that, he goes, 'You alright what's hurting?' “, and I've got so many aches and pains that an involuntary gasp like that is quite a regular occurrence. And he gets so upset and I say, “Oh, it's nothing, it's just my foot or my wrist or...” and he said, “Oh I thought it was your arm or your back” and then he gets himself in such a state. |
