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• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a friend or distant relative >> Lisa - Interview 29 >> Lisa was in deep despair when two of her friends were murdered. She was ill for a long time but over 10 years later she feels happy and optimistic aga

In the 1990’s Lisa lost two good friends due to murder. When her ex-boyfriend was stabbed, Lisa was in despair and at times suicidal. She was ill for over six years. She sought help in many ways. Finally, a healer from a spiritualist church restored her.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a child >> Godfrey - Interview 39 >> When Adrian died Godfrey felt that life would never be the same. He and his wife still miss him very much, but have reconstructed their lives.

In 1995 Godfrey’s son was fatally injured as he tried to board a train. Godfrey was denied information about exactly what had happened. The jury at the inquest decided it was an accident. It was an awful tragedy but Godfrey still has a positive attitude.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a child >> Patsy - Interview 21 >> Years after Dorrie’s death, family members have learnt how to deal with their grief. Patsy's family is a ‘living testimony to the fact that there is l

In 1999 Patsy’s son, Dorrie, was shot. He died soon afterwards. Patsy was devastated, but through her belief in Jesus, her relationship with God, her work with Mothers Against Violence and other community work she has come to terms with Dorrie’s death.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a brother or a sister >> Julie - Interview 09 >> Two years after Julie’s sister was murdered she felt less depressed, but 'silly little things' still make her cry. Mother’s day was particularly diffi

In September 2006 Julie’s sister, Shirley, was murdered by Shirley’s ex-partner. She had suffered domestic violence for a while. Julie and the family were shocked. Julie now cares for Shirley’s son. She has been supported by her family and friends.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a child >> Elizabeth - Interview 16 >> Elizabeth, whose daughter died in a car crash in 2006, wondered if she would ever feel joy again. Although she has other fantastic children she has fo

In 2006 Elizabeth’s daughter, Marni, was killed when her car veered across the road and crashed into a lorry. The accident may have happened because Marni had a medical condition. Her death was a terrible shock. Elizabeth was devastated.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a child >> Dolores - Interview 34 >> Dolores’ son, Tom, was stabbed to death in 2006. Two years later she still at times thought about dying herself and felt that half of her had gone.

In September 2006 Dolores son, Tom, was fatally wounded. He was stabbed by a man who had schizophrenia. Dolores was in shock for at least a couple of months. Cranial therapy and meditation helped, but Dolores still feels very sad and depressed at times.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a brother or a sister >> Stephen - Interview 12 >> Stephen’s life was shattered when he and his brother were hit by a drunk driver in 2006. Stephen now has physical disabilities and feels part of his h

In 2006 Stephen was crossing the road with his brother and brother-in-law. They were hit by a drunk driver. Stephen was severely injured and his brother was killed. The driver pleaded guilty to causing death by dangerous driving. It was a terrible shock.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a child >> David - Interview 31 >> David will never forget what happened to Simon. Since the day he was murdered David and his wife have worried about their own safety.

In 1992, David’s son, Simon, was stabbed to death near to his home. He was 17 years old. Simon’s death had a huge effect on the family. David and his wife supported each other. They are now members of Support after Murder and Manslaughter (SAMM).

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a brother or a sister >> Susanna - Interview 17 >> Six years after her brother died Susanna still feels pain that will never go away, that time doesn’t change the tragedy, and that the notion of closur

Susanna lost her brother in the terrorist bombings in Bali on 12th October 2002. Dan was killed instantly and his wife was badly burnt. With other bereaved relatives she started the UK Bali Bombing Victims Group.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a brother or a sister >> Tamsin - Interview 06 >> Tamsin misses her brother very much. The knowledge that one day she will have to deal with her parents’ deaths alone scares her most.

One day in 2007 Tamsin said goodbye to her brother. That evening Matthew died when his motorbike collided with a car. Tamsin was devastated. Her partner and her family support her but she misses Matthew dreadfully and the pain doesn’t get any easier.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a husband, wife or partner >> Jayne - Interview 07 >> Though Jonathan died many years ago, Jayne still misses him and feels angry about what happened and how it has affected her.

In 1992 Jayne’s husband, Jonathan Zito, was murdered by a man who had mental health problems. Jayne was shocked and traumatised. Since then she has had a great deal of counselling, which has been very helpful. She founded the Zito Trust.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a child >> Rachel - Interview 40 >> Two years after Dave’s death Rachel still feels raw at times, and day-to-day activities seem unimportant. She 'can’t move on’ and finds life very, ver

Rachel’s son, Dave, served in the Paras before he joined a security company. In 2006 he was working in Iraq when he was killed by a bomb. Rachel was devastated. She has had counselling which has helped, but at times finds it hard to get on with her life.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a child >> Rosemary - Interview 25 >> Rosemary wanted to resume normal life as quickly as possible, but felt that she would never be the same person again.

Rosemary’s son, James, was killed in the 7th July bomb attack in London in 2005. The family was devastated. Rosemary found help via family, friends, and colleagues, and through a vicar and a psychotherapist, and by creating wonderful memorials for her son.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a child >> Ann - Interview 24 >> Ann founded Knifecrimes.org. She goes into schools and talks to children about the consequences of carrying knives. She also supports families bereave

In 2005 Ann’s son, Westley, was murdered. He was attacked by a man with a knife. Ann and her family were devastated. Ann started the organisation KnifeCrimes.org which supports other victims of crime and which aims prevent other knife attacks.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a friend or distant relative >> Angela - Interview 11 >> Angela said that if she hadn’t worked hard for Mothers Against Violence she wouldn’t be happy. She feels she is doing God’s will and has helped to cha

Angela lost a cousin and a friend during 2008. Her cousin was killed with a machete and her friend was stabbed. These deaths have been very painful for Angela. Her faith in God has helped her. She gains strength by working for Mothers against Violence.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a friend or distant relative >> Shazia - Interview 01 >> Shazia gives talks about her friend's death, in order to prevent other violent crime committed in the name of ‘honour’. She said that helping other pe

In 1993 Shazia’s friend was shot by her friend’s father because of “izzat” and honour. Shazia, then aged 13, was devastated. She has found help through counselling and by supporting others in similar situations.

• Dying & bereavement >> Bereavement due to traumatic death >> Lost a husband, wife or partner >> Marcus - Interview 38 >> Marcus has been involved in several charities that help people bereaved through murder and manslaughter. He helps others and they help him, a double h

Marcus’s fiancée, Louise, was murdered in 1987. Marcus was shocked and his life was shattered. He found help through friends, family, the police, psychiatrists and art therapy. Today he finds help by helping others who have been bereaved in this way.