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Marcus - Interview 38
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Marcus believes that doctors prescribe antidepressants and sleeping pills too readily; they need to learn how to deal with post-traumatic stress disor
Marcus’s fiancée, Louise, was murdered in 1987. Marcus was shocked and his life was shattered. He found help through friends, family, the police, psychiatrists and art therapy. Today he finds help by helping others who have been bereaved in this way.
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Godfrey - Interview 39
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Godfrey suggests that when selecting people for medical school the selectors should consider people’s life experiences. Adverse life experiences might
In 1995 Godfrey’s son was fatally injured as he tried to board a train. Godfrey was denied information about exactly what had happened. The jury at the inquest decided it was an accident. It was an awful tragedy but Godfrey still has a positive attitude.
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William - Interview 18
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William saw his daughter at the hospital soon after her death. After the post-mortem, two days later, the undertaker brought her home. Lauren lay in h
In 2005 William’s 15 year old daughter, Lauren, was crossing a motorway and was hit by a lorry. She died almost immediately. William felt anger and guilt for not being able to protect her. He still misses her very much indeed.
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Nina - Interview 37
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Nina could not remember much after the train crashed at Potters Bar. Her husband was killed and she was taken to hospital with serious injuries. Her s
In 2002 Nina’s husband, Autsen, was killed in the Potters Bar rail crash. She was seriously hurt. Nina campaigned for compensation for the families of those who died. Nina misses her husband. She wrote the book “Dear Austen” to tell him what happened.
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Dorothy - Interview 28
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Dorothy described what happened when her son, Mark, was fatally injured in a huge explosion in a recycling plant. The family went to the hospital to s
In 2005 Dorothy’s son, Mark, was killed in an industrial incident. He was working in a waste and recycling plant. Dorothy was shocked and angry. Counselling, hypnotherapy and Compassionate Friends have helped.
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Michael - Interview 35
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After an explosion at the garage Michael and his wife went to the hospital to see Lewis, who was badly burnt and needed surgery. After three days the
In 2004 Michael’s son, Lewis, was badly burnt. At the time he was working at a garage. Lewis died three days later. Michael and the other members of the family were devastated. Michael found most support from family, friends and through counselling.
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Linda - Interview 15
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Linda’s son, Kevin, was stabbed to death by his sister’s ex-boyfriend. Linda heard what had had happened when Kevin’s work mate phoned her almost imme
In 2007 Linda’s son, Kevin, was murdered. He was 27 years old. He was stabbed and died 5 hours later. It was a terrific shock to all the family. Linda misses Kevin tremendously but her spiritual beliefs have helped her cope with her grief.
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Stephen - Interview 12
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Stephen remembers being semi-conscious in hospital after he was knocked down. His family was round his bed and told him that his brother had been kill
In 2006 Stephen was crossing the road with his brother and brother-in-law. They were hit by a drunk driver. Stephen was severely injured and his brother was killed. The driver pleaded guilty to causing death by dangerous driving. It was a terrible shock.
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Dean - Interview 36
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Dean was deeply shocked when the police called him to tell him that his son had been in an accident. He went to the hospital to see Andrew’s body.
Dean’s son, Andrew, was killed in 2006. He was hit by a car which was driven by a man who was not insured and who was driving illegally. Dean felt shocked and devastated. He has found help via friends, family, RoadPeace, the Spirualist Church and others.
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William - Interview 18
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William heard on the radio news that a serious accident had closed the road. He phoned home and a policeman advised him to go to the hospital where he
In 2005 William’s 15 year old daughter, Lauren, was crossing a motorway and was hit by a lorry. She died almost immediately. William felt anger and guilt for not being able to protect her. He still misses her very much indeed.
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