How about financially, would you say that pain has affected you financially?
Oh its, well really its turned this whole family upside down, because I mean obviously I don't work now at all and my wife's had to go out and work, she's never going to be able to make the money that I was making. She has actually went out working and we were fortunate that we got a settlement, but it doesn't last forever, and I bought my house outright, because I wasn't wanting the hassle of running out of money and not paying a mortgage.
It cost me quite a lot of money getting cars, when I passed my test, getting the right car and trying adaptations, we went for 2 or 3 holidays, I had a big family, it made life a lot easier at the particular time I got it.
Was that because of the accident?
Yes, because it wasn't my fault, but with not being able to work when you spend money you can't put it back. But now my wife works, she's actually a carer, its not the best of paid jobs, but I was fortunate in a sense that I bought my house out right and I don't have those worries, but we don't have a lot of money for incidentals now, and we will never be able to get that back and I suppose looking on that its affected us no end, there's been an awful lot of worry although it was eased for that particular time, and with actually having a big family too it made things a wee bit harder, we were never destitute.
But now we're getting a bit older and the kids are up and that sort of money is not there we can't do a lot of the things we should be doing at our sort of age. And unfortunately my wife took a massive angina attack last November, so she's had to cut back her hours in her job, because she can't do a lot of the lifting which has been another bit of a worry, you just try and get on with it now, but I mean it has changed our lives dramatically and unless you've got a big or a nest egg, I mean it has got to.
I mean I was the bread winner since I was married and coming to terms with that, my wife going out working, I could never really put up with that, although I basically had to, if I had been working and she'd wanted a part time job I would put up with that fine, but my wife's had to go out, it definitely changed our life in that respect.
And now I'm trying to do as much as I can in the house, the more I do the worse pain I'm getting, if I don't do it then she's got to come in and do it, so I mean it has been a big change a big turn over, but we are getting by we are getting there. I don't what we will be like in 10 years time when I'm older. |
