Hello again. As an update to the situation: I eventually, and awkwardly, saw a Urologist who took no time in deciding I needed a circumcision. I wasn't happy at all, neither with the suggestion nor the speed at which it was decided. The surgeon, on examination, seemed to be surprised at just how sensitive things were and spelt out in no uncertain terms that a circumcision was a 50/50 operation, meaning that sensitivity would be reduced as a result or in fact increased. I have probably confused the matter as there appear to be two issues; tight skin and hyper-sensitivity. The only step I took to get help has complicated the problem, the idea that it 'could' heighten sensitivity has really fueled my fear. I returned to my GP, expressed my concerns, suggested a second opinion and in the meantime am applying a steroidal cream otherwise known as Hydrocortisone 1%. I believe I immediately saw a small improvement by using the cream but nothing conclusive. My life has been interrupted recently so I have not had the focus to maintain regular application. I was told that within weeks there would be a change, if any at all, but I have decided I will give it months as it is not the kind of thing I wish to rush. The consequences of forcing things could be dire, so the doctor warned. To meet me you would probably never know that I have a) never had a relationship with a girl and b) never had sex. However, I'm finding that at my age such things, though not said, are becoming more obvious. I worry about it, but equally worry about the prospect of medical help. One of my sisters got married last month, another one is due to marry in the Summer, I have a brother in a long term relationship and in all likelihood will tie the knot soon, my best friend gets married on New Years. My own future is very much on my mind but feel I am being left behind. I am full of doubts and am sure I'll enter my 30's with the same problem. Thank you to the person above, I really am grateful to hear from anyone, be it a professional or someone who has gone through this themselves. This is very stressful despite it being non-life-threatening. Ironically, I only got into this position because I lost my job and had time on my hands, 'now or never' was the attitude. Many thanks in advance.

The sad news is that your number one phobia could prove true since the medical profession are unlikely to offer you any treatment but circumcision. There are less damaging treatments available, but you will have to fight to get them. In short if the skin is simply tight then stretching may be possible. if there is an underlying condition such as lichen sclerosus (erroneously called "BXO") then it may be possible to treat it with topical steroids or newer things like tacrolimus or picrolimus. Do your homework thouroghly and don;t be fobbed off with the claim that there is no alternative to circumcision.